यन्मैथुनादिगृहमेधिसुखं हि तुच्छं कण्डूयनेन करयोरिव दु:खदु:खम् । तृप्यन्ति नेह कृपणा बहुदु:खभाज: कण्डूतिवन्मनसिजं विषहेत धीर: ॥ ४५ ॥
yan maithunadi-grhamedhi-sukham hi tuccham kanduyanena karayor iva duhkha-duhkham trpyanti neha krpana bahu-duhkha-bhajah kandutivan manasijam visaheta dhirah
- yat
- that which (is meant for material sense gratification)
- maithuna-adi
- represented by talking of sex, reading sexual literature or enjoying sex life (at home or outside, as in a club)
- grhamedhi-sukham
- all types of material happiness based on attachment to family, society, friendship, etc.
- hi
- indeed
- tuccham
- insignificant
- kanduyanena
- with the itching
- karayoh
- of the two hands (to relieve the itching)
- iva
- like
- duhkha-duhkham
- different types of unhappiness (into which one is put after such itching sense gratification)
- trpyanti
- become satisfied
- na
- never
- iha
- in material sense gratification
- krpanah
- the foolish persons
- bahu-duhkha-bhajah
- subjected to various types of material unhappiness
- kanduti-vat
- if one can learn from such itching
- manasi-jam
- which is simply a mental concoction (actually there is no happiness)
- visaheta
- and tolerates (such itching)
- dhirah
- (he can become) a most perfect, sober person
Sex life is compared to the rubbing of two hands to relieve an itch. Grhamedhis, so-called grhasthas who have no spiritual knowledge, think that this itching is the greatest platform of happiness, although actually it is a source of distress. The krpanas, the fools who are just the opposite of brahmanas, are not satisfied by repeated sensuous enjoyment. Those who are dhira, however, who are sober and who tolerate this itching, are not subjected to the sufferings of fools and rascals.